Cheating Boyfriend: How To Bust And Save A Relationship
Admit it, women are very distrustful creatures or is it just men can be so naughty at times as in the case of a cheating boyfriend? Whether you are just an overly jealous girlfriend or an insecure belle, some suspicions are worth double checking because a relationship is at stake. Before you play the role of a detective, here are some reminders to help you bust your boyfriend without entirely ruining your relationship and dignity (in case the relationship is still worth saving).There are obvious signs of cheating boyfriends that even I sometimes consciously keep in mind. However, there are proper ways in checking out these signs without offending the other party (remember that your boyfriend remains innocent unless proven guilty).
Validate Your Suspicions With Signs
Looking for validating signs is the first step towards your investigation and not the biggest mistake of confrontation based on mere rumors or volatile emotions. Many women put their relationships in an irreparable state the first minute a gut-feel of cheating sinks into their consciousness. This is because they break the trust already without weighing matters first. Signs can be sudden change on his mood or behavior towards you, his appearance or time management (read: time on you). It can be that he is starting to be secretive. Be just. Ponder if you saw some signs before looking for evidence.
Looking For Evidences Of A Cheating Boyfriend
Hold that award-winning dialogue and find evidence first. Many obvious signs of cheating can also be caused by other stressors like work, family or health. An illicit affair causes not all changes. That is unless you can back them up right away with pieces of evidence, which I think is a creative act of you. Evidence can be a whiff of lady’s perfume from his collar or sleeves. It can be a note or an actual encounter. However, remember that that evidence will remain inconclusive unless you hear it from him, or all signs and shreds of evidence are weaved into a clear picture of cheating.
Hard to accept but true. Even cheating boyfriends have the right to privacy. Many suspecting girlfriends first resort to checking their boyfriend’s mobile phones, email accounts or even private journals. Mind you, I think that is just so unethical and can be used by your boyfriend as a reason to call it “quits” or finally break up with you, free of guilt. Privacy means so much to couples. Even married couples respect that. If you are so sure of your suspicions (unbiased surety), then taking the risk of breaking this boundary might be worth the shot.
Confronting A Cheating Boyfriend
Confronting in this context only means hearing the truth from your boyfriend’s mouth. Talking to him in a very calm manner can be hard in times of emotional distress. However, there is no other way but to close this chapter with an affirmation, so both of you can move on.Do not go berserk. That is a big no-no. You cannot send your dishonest boyfriend to jail, but he can throw you behind bars for breaking his car’s hood or busting his windshields.It won’t be easy. Nothing is easy if that helps you in any way. Maintaining calmness and presence of mind when handling this situation is important if you still want to talk this through and save your relationship with your cheating boyfriend.